Its easy to love perfect ppl. Its an easy trap to fall into. Its an assurance that “everything”will be right. “Go as planned.” However do we “miss God” by being “routinely” with perfection or perfectionist mindset? We know nobodys perfect but yet when imperfections come in the unlikely situation, disappointments can flood our hearts and actions.
How are you teaching people you love in your disappointments? What does love look like in your dissatisfaction… disgust…heartache…??? Majority of the time our actions are not loving but avoiding, misbehaving, gossiping, prideful, negative, silence or even wierd sounds and stares… or do you treat people like they are not human. My point here is that in all we do Christ loves us inspite of. Everyones walk is different. .. but the Lord tells us how to treat those we love in teachable moments:
Jesus Counsels the Rich Young Ruler
“17 Now as He was going out on the road, one came running, knelt before Him, and asked Him, “Good Teacher, what shall I do that I may inherit eternal life?”18 So Jesus said to him, “Why do you call Me good? No one isgood but One, that is, God. 19 You know the commandments: ‘Do not commit adultery,’ ‘Do not murder,’ ‘Do not steal,’ ‘Do not bear false witness,’ ‘Do not defraud,’ ‘Honor your father and your mother.’”[a]20 And he answered and said to Him, “Teacher, all these things I have kept from my youth.”21 Then Jesus, looking at him, loved him, and said to him, “One thing you lack: Go your way, sell whatever you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, take up the cross, and follow Me.”22 But he was sad at this word, and went away sorrowful, for he had great possessions.”
Are you missing the teachable moment(s)? Instead of building his relationship with Christ he did a u-turn. How many u-turns are you going to do in your life? Although it may be physically impossible, we serve a God beyond what we see and think.
In some ways the rich young ruler is me. There are things I know I obey God. I do it well with no hesitation. However other areas are much harder. Jesus’ approach is not what the world teaches.” 21 Then Jesus, looking at him, loved him, and said to him, “One thing you lack: Go your way, sell whatever you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, take up the cross, and follow Me.”
Three things… Jesus looking at him, loved him, and said to him… He didn’t gossip, spread rumors, didnt make a blime message and most importantly Jesus didnt belittle him… but instead challenged his growth.
The disciples gave up what they had to follow Christ, however the young ruler could not let go. What are you holding on to that is preventing you from growing? Although Jesus’answer is not what the young ruler wanted, Jesus’ correction in expressing himself came from the right place. How often have you had a unloving response?
As the young ruler left, he was not disrespectful. Although he was sad, he walked away. How often do you walk away but you “gotta have the last word.” How do you leave a business, personal, friendship when it did not go as planned. In all God is having us be accountability for our responses not just our thoughts.
There is a lot more to say in this passage. However, I wanted to at least touch on how do we love in our disappointments and dissatisfactions.
Character is built on how you respond when no one is looking and in hard times. When disappointments hit:
1. Its hard to Listen
2. Easy to dehumanize
3. Often Discredit
4. Faults are one sided
5. Prideful response with hidden agendas
6. Oxymoron: Your the victim, often, with a victorious attitude
7. Accountability decreases and emotional reasons for disrespect increases.
8. Grudges in mind and heart.
People are not listening to what you say anymore…. folks are looking at how you act, demeanor, attitude, character, who you are because action speaks louder than words.